How to dig deeper on your emotions
So here’s the thing
The ACTUAL thing
That’s holding you back
From creating the life
And the impact
You really desire
The thing is
You’re still watering down
Who you really are
What you REALLY feel
What you actually believe
And the message
You were truly born
To share with the world
And that is both
A good and bad thing
Of course it’s not actually
A bad thing
But it probably does pose
A bit of a challenge
Reason being
That almost all people
— to one degree or another —
Are afraid to be ALL OF
Who they really are
And the main reason
For that
Is because
Most people
Care more about
What other people
Think about them
Than what they actually think
About themselves
So the challenge
Then becomes
How to care LESS
About the opinion of others
And MORE about the opinion
Of Yourself
And the only way to do this
Is to actually get to know yourself
On a deeper level
One of the best ways
To do this
Is to keep a journal
And take notes
On how you feel
Throughout your day
Specifically
You’ll want to pay attention
To the relationship between
Any strong emotions that come up
And the events, people, and situations
That trigger those emotions
An example of how to do this:
Let’s say
I walk into the house
My partner is working on something
And — because he’s so into
whatever he’s working on —
He doesn’t say hello to me
Right away
His delay
Triggers
A feeling of anger
In me
But when I dig deeper
The anger is really a mask
Covering up the fact that I’m hurt
Maybe I feel unappreciated
Or unimportant
Perhaps I had some exciting
News to share
Making my partner’s
Seeming indifference
Even more frustrating
But let’s say my anger/hurt
Doesn’t go away
When he actually stops what he’s doing
And comes over to say hello to me
Let’s take it one step further
And say that I actually tell him
How it made me feel when he didn’t
Acknowledge me right away
Let’s say he actually apologizes
And is totally sincere in his apology
But I can feel the hurt
Still swirling around
Inside me
Then I dig a little deeper
And realize that the reason
I still feel hurt
Is because this incident
Triggered a childhood memory
Of how I often felt unacknowledged
By the people/adults around me
This is just one example
How how to dig deeper
On your own emotional process
And it’s critical to do so
Because the path to self-love
Comes through self-knowledge
Until you get to know yourself
More deeply
You will be tempted
To blame others
And to externalize
Your emotions
Onto them
But your emotions
Always belong to you
Even when they are triggered
By others
And then of course the good news
Is that once you get to know yourself
And love yourself for ALL OF
Who you are
It will become
Much less important
To you
What others think
And from that place
You will be able
To create true magic
In the world
By being all of who
You came here to be
Joy is your natural state
It’s time for you to remember
To our collective growth,
Tara
