emotional awareness

Knowing Yourself

 

How to dig deeper on your emotions


So here’s the thing

The ACTUAL thing

That’s holding you back

From creating the life

And the impact 

You really desire

 

The thing is

You’re still watering down

Who you really are

What you REALLY feel

What you actually believe

And the message

You were truly born

To share with the world

 

And that is both

A good and bad thing

 

Of course it’s not actually 

A bad thing

 

But it probably does pose

A bit of a challenge 

 

Reason being

That almost all people

— to one degree or another — 

Are afraid to be ALL OF

Who they really are

 

And the main reason 

For that

Is because 

Most people

Care more about

What other people

Think about them

Than what they actually think

About themselves

 

So the challenge 

Then becomes

How to care LESS 

About the opinion of others

And MORE about the opinion 

Of Yourself 

 

And the only way to do this

Is to actually get to know yourself 

On a deeper level

 

One of the best ways 

To do this

Is to keep a journal

And take notes

On how you feel

Throughout your day

 

Specifically

You’ll want to pay attention

To the relationship between 

Any strong emotions that come up

And the events, people, and situations

That trigger those emotions

 

An example of how to do this:

 

Let’s say

I walk into the house

My partner is working on something

And — because he’s so into

whatever he’s working on —

He doesn’t say hello to me

Right away

 

His delay

Triggers 

A feeling of anger

In me

 

But when I dig deeper

The anger is really a mask

Covering up the fact that I’m hurt

 

Maybe I feel unappreciated

Or unimportant

 

Perhaps I had some exciting 

News to share

 

Making my partner’s 

Seeming indifference 

Even more frustrating

 

But let’s say my anger/hurt

Doesn’t go away 

When he actually stops what he’s doing

And comes over to say hello to me

 

Let’s take it one step further

And say that I actually tell him

How it made me feel when he didn’t 

Acknowledge me right away

 

Let’s say he actually apologizes

And is totally sincere in his apology

But I can feel the hurt

Still swirling around

Inside me

 

Then I dig a little deeper

And realize that the reason 

I still feel hurt

Is because this incident

Triggered a childhood memory

Of how I often felt unacknowledged

By the people/adults around me

 

This is just one example 

How how to dig deeper 

On your own emotional process 

 

And it’s critical to do so

Because the path to self-love

Comes through self-knowledge 

 

Until you get to know yourself

More deeply

You will be tempted 

To blame others

And to externalize

Your emotions 

Onto them

 

But your emotions

Always belong to you

Even when they are triggered

By others

 

And then of course the good news

Is that once you get to know yourself

And love yourself for ALL OF 

Who you are

 

It will become

Much less important

To you

What others think

 

And from that place

You will be able 

To create true magic

In the world

By being all of who

You came here to be

 

Joy is your natural state

It’s time for you to remember

 

To our collective growth,

Tara 

 
 

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