Tough Love: Why You're Looping

You deserve more
So much more

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You can do all the mindset work

Make all the vision boards

And attend all the seminars 

In the world

You can do 

Your daily yoga

Meditation

And breathwork

You can do 

All the acts of service 

Create gratitude lists

And pin affirmations

To every door 

Of your home

But until 

You’re actually willing

To give up the things 

That are making you sick

You will not experience

Any lasting peace

No amount of organic food

Or even being vegan 

— although eating plant-based WILL 

put you in a different category of people — 

Is going to fully remedy that

If you allow

Toxic emotions

People

Or habits

To infiltrate your life

And STAY there

You’re going to suffer

And this is not the kind of pain

That, one day, just eases up

On the contrary 

It increases

And it will ultimately rob you

Of the life that you could have

Otherwise lived

So you can either 

Let go 

Of WHO and WHAT

No longer serves you

Or 

You can let go

Of the silly notion 

That you will find happiness 

In the midst of dis-ease

You deserve more

So much more

But you have to believe it

Yes YOU have to believe it

But until then 

You can borrow 

My belief

In you

And yes

I do believe in you

Because not just anybody

Finds their way into this space

And not just anybody 

Takes the time 

To read a “tough love” post

All the way through 

The irony is

It will be a lot easier

For you

To believe in you

When you actually start 

Treating yourself right

By saying no thank you 

To that extra glass of alcohol

By saying no to eating foods

That you know full well 

Caused another Being to suffer

By saying no to conversations

That leave you feeling depleted

By saying yes 

To yourself

Yes to speaking your truth

Yes to saying “I hear you…” 

To that negative voice inside your head 

“…but you’re not in charge of my life anymore”

It’s easy 

To let go 

Of our ‘comfort’ zones

When we realize 

We’re not all that

Comfortable 

There anyway

Joy in your natural state

It’s time for you to remember 

To our collective growth,

Tara x

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Why are we so afraid of the emptiness?

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This post is picking up where last week’s newsletter piece left off
If you missed it
You can catch it  here


So the question we left off with was
Why are we so afraid of the emptiness 
Why does even the word emptiness 
Bring about such a feeling of gloom 
And sometimes even shame for so many of us


Ironically, I’ve noticed this to be even more common
Among the more awakened, progressive and spiritual circles
Where people intellectually understand so much 
Yet are far from immune to the highs and lows
That often accompany walking this road less traveled


So the first question is why?
Why the fear?
Why do we prefer to hold onto what doesn’t serve us
Instead of creating space to allow what does (serve us) to come through


Well for starters, we’ve been conditioned to believe that emptiness is “bad”
We’ve been conditioned to believe that if we’re not busy
Or happy - like we imagine everyone else to be
Or in a constant state of euphoria - again, like we imagine everyone else to be

Then something must be wrong with us


We fear the emptiness because in the emptiness we have to meet ourselves
Often for the first time 
We have to sit with emotions that can be extremely uncomfortable 
But that’s not all of it


The reason we often feel the fear so acutely
Is because of our identification with the emotions we experience
We take our emotions on as facts
We literally believe that we ARE the emotion we’re experiencing 


Given how many emotions we can experience in any given day
Is it any wonder then 
That how we feel about ourselves is so inconsistent 
So unpredictable 


I’ll let you in on a not-so-little secret
You are not your emotions 
And yet your emotions matter immensely 
Because they are a sort of guidance system 
A compass if you will


However, until you make friends with your emotions
Until you allow each and every one of them a seat at the dinner table
They will continue to rule your life
And you will continue to play hide and seek with your potential
Because your fear of what’s going on inside of you will keep you stuck


The other reason we are afraid of the unknown 
Is because we are wired to be afraid of anything we don’t understand 
I can’t overemphasize this point enough 
This is why positive thinking will only ever get you so far


The Truth - the deeper Truth that many so-called teachers don’t want to speak
Either because they don’t know it themselves
Or because it doesn’t “sell” as well
Is that the only way out is through 


It is always through


So how do we begin to do this?


3 components to consider: 

• 
Your Environment: I spoke about this last week so go here to read my thoughts
   

• Your Inner Dialogue: How do you talk to yourself? 

What is the story you tell yourself about who you are? 
What is the story you tell yourself about who other people are? 
What is the story you tell yourself about the world you live in? 
Is it a safe place? 
Is it a scary place? 
Are people fundamentally good? Evil? 
Are you hopeful about our potential as a humanity to rise in consciousness? 
Or do you see doom and gloom everywhere you look? 
 
And how is this story — this inner dialogue — working out for you? 
What impact is it having on your life? 
Your relationships? 
Your income? 
Can you see the correlation between your fear and how constricted your life feels? 

In contrast 
Can you see the correlation between your willingness to remain open-hearted (despite your fear) And how abundant your life feels?



    •    What You Feed Your Body: This is two-fold

It’s about what you actually consume in terms of food
So the questions to ask yourself would include: 
Am I eating high-vibrational foods?
Am I consuming enough fruits and vegetables? 
Am I drinking enough water? 
Remember we are electric Beings and we are made up of 70% water
Am I still consuming animal flesh, eggs or liquids? 
Now - before you decide to unsubscribe
I’d like to ask you to consider the following fact
Emotions are stored in our cells
This is true for humans, of course, but it’s also true for animals
And the truth about what happens when an animal is sent to slaughter
Even if his or her life up until that moment has been relatively good 
Is that their entire system is taken over by Fear, Shock, Terror 
Emotions which are then stored and locked into their cells
And transferred to your cells the moment you consume them
This is something your mind will try to reject
But your Soul will immediately recognize the Truth of it
So if you’re a relatively connected person, you’ve already got it
So I’ll leave that there for now
The second piece of this is about what you feed your body 
By way of what you consume mentally and emotionally
See #1 on Your Environment for the physical/people part of this
But also consider the non-tangible stuff you consume
Here, the questions to ask yourself would include:
What kind of pages do I follow on social media? 
What other sorts of information do I consume? 
How do I feel after spending 20 minutes on Instagram of Facebook? 
Am I looking at content that leaves me feeling tired? Uninspired? Or less than? 
And am I willing to be more intentional about what I allow to penetrate my mind? 
Am I willing to unfollow pages that make me feel bad about myself? 
Without the need to justify it to myself or anyone else?


If you commit to becoming more mindful about these 3 things
Your environment
Your inner dialogue 
What you feed your body
You will begin to have a more clear vessel
And you will without a doubt begin to raise your vibration


These things
Especially when combined
Will do more to help you clear out fear
Than all the self-help books in the world combined  


Why? 
Well for starters because they’re action-oriented 
And one of the biggest ‘blocks’ to changing our reality 
Is the willingness to make different choices 
And take different actions
But also because taking these steps will help to ground you deeper 
Into the Truth of who you really are


When you hang out with toxic people
Think toxic thoughts
And eat toxic food
The results you get will closely mimic
 those states of being


So wouldn’t it make total sense then
That when you clear out negatively 
Start observing your emotions instead of identifying AS your emotions 
And start eating more live, high-vibe foods (aka not consuming death)
And increasing your water intake even by one glass of water per day
That your results will closely mimic 
This new state of being?


The kicker is you actually have to DO the new thing 
Take the action
Make the effort
Don’t wait for the motivation 
Understand that the motivation comes in the doing
It FOLLOWS the actions
It doesn’t come before it


Yes you ARE capable
You CAN do it
And yes it really DOES matter that you do


Humanity is waiting on you 
On all of us
To rise 


To our collective growth,
Tara x

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