The Programming

 

Why Adults Say the Dumbest
Things to Young People


Not all adults

But let’s be honest

A fair share of them

Really do say

The craziest things

To young people

 

Not because 

The Youth

Is naive

 

But because 

The majority

Of adults

Checked out

Long ago

And don’t know it

 

You see 

The Programming

In humanity

Runs DEEP

 

So deep

In fact

That it takes

Many of us

YEARS

Just to figure out

That we’re running 

On a false program

In the first place

 

And even after that

Even after that initial 

Point of awakening

 

The business 

Of STAYING awake

Takes work

 

So to anyone 

Reading this

I want you to know 

That the only reason

Anyone tells anyone

Not to go after 

Their dreams

 

Is because 

That person 

Decided 

Probably long ago

Not to go after 

Their own

 

Or maybe they DID 

Go after their dreams

But things didn’t 

Work out for them 

 

So now

— disillusioned with 

their own life — 

They don’t want 

The same “fate” for you

 

Just to be clear

This is not an invitation

To point the finger

Or blame your parents

 

That would be

A disservice

Both to yourself 

And to humanity 

 

Plus

In most cases

Parents mean well

And are simply 

Trying to protect you

From what they see

As unnecessary pain

 

Instead of blaming anyone

However

This is an invitation 

For all of us

As a collective

To become more aware

 

Based on my experience 

With my own parents

Who always mean well

 

This is what 

I know for sure:

 

Another person’s experience 

Has absolutely 

Nothing

To do with you

Or with your experience

 

BUT

If you don’t know that

It will hurt you

 

Why?

Because we’re impacted

— whether we like it or not —

By our environment

 

In fact

We absorb 

Our environment 

Through osmosis 

 

The beliefs of the people

You surround yourself with

Become YOUR beliefs

 

So my best advice

Especially to the youth

Is to stop listening

To anyone 

— however well-meaning —

Who tries to guide you

From a place of fear

 

Instead

Commit yourself fully

 

To the evolution

Of your own Soul

 

In whatever way

Feels right for you

 

Understand that 

Other people

Can only reflect back 

To you

Who THEY are

 

Not who you are

 

And lastly

Remember

That nobody

Can ever meet you

At a level 

Of consciousness

Beyond their own

 

Stay awake

Stay sovereign 

 

Joy truly is your natural state


It’s time we all remember

 

To our collective growth,
Tara x

 
 

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Tara Daylami

Plagued by the kind of sensitivity (and awareness!) you almost wouldn't wish upon your worst enemy, I spent most of my childhood in a state of hyper-vigilance and inability to handle to slightest of criticisms. By my teenage years, this sensitivity had successfully matured to a full-blown rage which nothing -- and I mean NOTHING -- could console until, at 16, I was FINALLY introduced to illicit drugs (the likes of cocaine and ecstasy -- and, if you like, house music) which finally began to ameliorate what by this point could only be described as ACUTE PSYCHIC PAIN. But the story doesn't end there. I continued on. With hallucinogenics. With relationships. With theft. With alcohol. With lies and deceit and betrayal and infidelity for another 10 years. In the meantime, I graduated college (on time) and worked full time. I even met and got engaged to an amazing guy. But absolutely nothing could touch the emptiness I felt inside. And so I did what most people who can hardly stand to be in their own skin do: I sabotaged. I destroyed anything and everything that "threatened" to come close. That threatened to love me. Nothing terrified me more than being "found out" for who I really believed I was inside. Empty. Hollow. While, simultaneously, nothing terrified be more that the thought that no one ever would find out.

Oh and throughout all this, I might mention, I also returned to school to pursue none other that a career as a psychotherapist. It was as illogical then as it probably sounds to you now. But I can tell you this. That decision was made (with the help of my then fiancé) in 2003, and as I (metaphorically) sit before you today, I can hardly recognize that girl. Sure, our Soul may be eternal and never-changing, but for all practical purposes, who I was and the way I showed up in the world in virtually no way resembles the person I am today. I spent my 20s effectively destroying almost everything that crossed my path. And I spent most of my 30's trying to scrape off the last residue of guilt that the previous decade left on my soul. I would be lying to you if I said it hasn't been painful. Because it has. BUT! The thing about it is that everything is different now. All the work I have done over the last several decades. Because -- despite being a spinning ball of chaos for the first 35 years of my life -- I have ALWAYS KNOWN deep down inside that I was destined for more. A LOT MORE. And the thought of that terrified me as well.